By Cyndi Jones, Publisher
Where did this year go? As I look ahead I see the holidays approaching like a Mack truck.
It is hard sometimes, especially when you throw disability into the mix. When our neighbors start putting up their decorations, I feel the need to add to the festivities. I don't want it to be said, "They don't do it because they are disabled, and it is too hard for them." For many years I tried to do everything everyone else did (or was supposed to do).
A few years ago I gave myself permission to relax during the holiday season. Whatever I got done, I applauded myself for, and whatever was left on the table, either got done later or didn't. But either way, I gave myself permission to not fret about it.
The trick is to prioritize those things which must get done þ you know, the things that "make it" the holiday for you, without which it is not Thanksgiving, Chanukkah or New Year's Eve. Those core things are a must. Then add other ingredients as time and funds allow.
We have a tradition of starting our giving at our church, or donating to a homeless shelter or a charity that has demonstrated its outreach to the poor. We start here to make sure our attitude is set right.
After this is done, the rest is, well, the rest.
I try to think of things that are a gift of time, because that is what seems to be in such short supply, and most of us have more "stuff" than we know what to do with.
One year, when our nieces were younger, we invited them over to help make cookies and decorate our tree. Not only did we have a great Saturday, but our house got decorated -- and their parents had a day to do what they needed to do. It was a great gift to all.
For a few years now, I have made "heat and serve" dinners as a gift to friends for those busy holiday evenings when you have to eat but are too tired to cook. I package the meals and deliver them during the peak of the holiday season. Just heat them in the microwave, add a salad and they're ready.
Another suggestions is to make or do something for someone that is very traditional. You know, "It reminds me of my childhood."
Or, "We used to do that before we moved. We never seem to have the time any more." This is a very personal gift because each person's holiday traditions were set in their family. The idea is to delight them with a piece of their childhood.
I share this with you because the holidays get pretty hectic and they were never intended to be a burden, but a gift. A gift of sharing, caring and time to be with those we care about. Be creative, relax and enjoy the holidays!
Cyndi Jones is Publisher of MAINSTREAM.
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